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I intend to soon begin leading a group, in order to help young people who have been effected by abusive relationships. It will be available for youths in Davie County, and its surrounding areas. The channels which I originally intended on using for this are temporarily closed to me, due to many of the local politicians and officials having dramatically serious issues with honesty. So deplorable is the honesty issue for the local power brokers that they are afraid of the words of this seventeen-year-old girl. I can imagine them cringing in rage even as they read this, and I know they shall. If there is anything I know about corrupt people: it is they are as predictable as they are shallow. The great tragedy of this situation is that most of the local people to whom I refer are involved in the welfare of children as part of their career; either directly or indirectly. Their attempts at preventing me from reaching young people in order to protect themselves from criticisms written on this blog is sadly business as usual for them. The infamous behavior of some of them somehow makes news in the local paper on a weekly basis, and so the taint of disgrace follows them. Every local reader will immediately know this particular group from the previous statement alone. Is it not telling? Thomas has told me that he is certain a couple of these people are not too bad morally, so I must wonder the personal price paid by the good ones for their guilt-by-association. It is often said that power corrupts, but this is only half of the truth. The missing part is that it is those who are the most corrupt who seek power the most aggressively. Abuse is always about power: creating power, and maintaining power.
I am aware that I have hundreds of young readers of this blog. If you are one of those people, and you would like to be part of the discussion group about abuse, or even speak to me privately, then contact me. You can find my contact information on this blog. You may also call me at: 336-936-0018. Please do not hesitate to call, write, or message me. I can promise you that I will not lie to you, manipulate you, or betray your trust, and I make a bloody good friend. I also have no agenda, nor quota for destroying peoples' lives.
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John (Griff) Wood has been a close friend for almost a year, and has been of immense help since I moved here. He was a very trusted contact that I held in the United Kingdom. Active in British politics, I met Griff through the Internet when I was around 13-years-old. Since then, we experienced many discrepancies, and we rarely spoke during my relationship with Richard. It was just before I moved to America that Griff would become a life-long friend.
Around three months ago, he was taken to the hospital with some very serious ailments. Since that time, he has been in and out of the hospital whilst doctors tested and medicated him. After surgery to remove a cancerous prostate, Griff was pronounced cancer-free. Repeatedly, both me and Thomas explained how this was not the case, and that his list of problematic conditions gave us the belief that the surgery had stimulated cancer to spread throughout his internal organs. As stubborn as ever, Griff took our holistic treatment suggestions only on occasion due to his aversion to their bad taste.
I believe that he knew that his time was coming to an end, at the age of 74. He was in agonizing pain during the last two weeks of his life, and was drugged with morphine to make it bearable. During his last week, Griff was placed in a hospice, with the medical establishment having surrendered the fight to save him. Due to his suffering, it was probably a blessing that his life ended when it did. Griff died late in the night of November 21st. He often posted on this blog under the name 'Graeme', offering insightful, and sometimes humorous comments.
He will be deeply missed, and my heart reaches out to his family.
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I called Kaci yesterday, and I said that I would try and make it up to the Domestic Violence office today. Unfortunately, I was still working at 6:00 AM on the book this morning, so I really did not get enough sleep. Although, I will try again tomorrow, because this will be my last chance before Thanksgiving on Thursday. The office will be closed both Thursday and Friday for the holiday. Thanksgiving is something that I have never celebrated before, since it is not an English celebration, and we were far too busy this time last year.
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I have uploaded a video to Youtube with some topics covered in my book which may be of interest. In the video, I also proudly show one of our baby bunny rabbits. Click the above picture to watch it. Other videos will be coming in the future. Click here to watch all of my You-Tube videos. In the case of technical problems, here is an alternative download of the movie in the mpeg-4 format.
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When people first hear that I am from England, one of their opening questions is: "What do you miss the most?" Perhaps now I can try to answer that question in this posting. I think that it is important to note that I have never been quite as happy and settled as I am right now. I have never experienced such stability and love. I am really thankful for the chance in life that I have been given, to both this family, and God. I do not believe that I can remember a time in England, where I was completely happy in my location, doing exactly what I wanted to do. Being happy without material items or financial assets is the true meaning of joy. Because of this, I really do not miss much from England.
One of the beauties of England is the landscape. Being in the countryside in England was truly beautiful, and there was a certain clean smell which is somewhat indescribable lingering in the open fields. There was a peaceful presence in the untouched countryside which is something that I miss. It is something that I have yet to encounter here, but I feel that I will at some point in the future.
There is only a small group of people who I miss from England, although this may seem surprising. An unwillingness to help from the people around me was one of the reasons why I came to the U.S. originally. Most people in Britain have become unwilling to help others in crisis, due to a fear that it might create controversy. By definition, these people are cowards. Unfortunately, they now fill England; and this is one of the many reasons why my life was so complicated, and why I was unable to find help in the UK. I find that on average, I much prefer the people here in North Carolina, in comparison to those in Britain. It is generally a matter of morality, which is something that fits hand-in-hand with Christianity, a dominant part of society in this area.
I strongly believe that if I had experienced the same chain of events in America which forced me to move to it, then I would have been rescued as a young child. That does not necessarily mean that agencies would have been rushing to help (although they probably would have), but more that the general public would have been more willing to intervene when they discovered what was going on. Those who were close to me whilst I was young did not consciously know the relationship between me and Gary, and often did not want to know at an unconscious level. It was because of their cowardly attitude and unwillingness to involve themselves when they were needed which led me, and many others, to experience unnecessary suffering. I am sure that there are thousands of children who need help in Britain, in the same way that I did; who are ignored by the morally bankrupt people around them not wishing to listen or understand.
Missing England is something that I generally do not do. I am happy where I am now, and whenever I remember England, my thoughts remain on what I managed to escape from. There are few happy memories, and I am sure that all of the readers of this blog will agree that the bad memories seem to always be remembered more than the good. This is certainly the case for me, since it was the bad memories which shaped my life so dramatically.
When really thinking about this question, I could not help but refer to what I do not miss. I find this a much easier question to answer. I do not miss fuel prices or constant congestion. I do not miss the people with a mentality of being too afraid to be different or to stand out. I would never sacrifice America's system of justice for England's legal system. I do not miss being restricted by the law about what I am allowed to say, or restricted in what I may legally write about, when the truth is not even considered a defense. I do not miss being surrounded by pagan religion witches who are lost in their service to the Devil; whether it be directly or indirectly. I learned first hand that there is no honor among such people. The trickery and deceit of witchcraft is one of the many reasons why it is forbidden by God.
In summary, I am glad that I am where I am now, and going back would not only be potentially dangerous to my life, but also it is something that I would never wish to do. Perhaps there will be a reason in a few years to revisit England, but right now, it is not something that I have any intention of doing.
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We spoke to an agent recently who honestly explained how books such as ours make some publishers nervous in regard to the ever growing risk of defamation litigation. Our book cites real people who were involved in child sexual abuse, after all. Consequently, over the last couple of days, we have been researching our defamation liability in regard to individuals who are discussed in the book. As you might imagine, researching legal statutes and case law has not been exactly enjoyable. It has entailed enormous frustration reading through tedious legal decisions. I feel relieved to have affirmed that we have legal immunity stemming from the almost unique circumstances of the book. We knew that we needed to build a defense before progressing any further in marketing the book.
The combination of circumstances behind my book combined with the legal protections of U.S. laws shields us from British libel laws which U.S. judges have called "repugnant to the policies of the United States". British law would never have allowed us to write the truth, and the truth is not even a defense for accusations of defamation in England. The truth can literally be placed on trial in England, and the truth typically loses. In fact, the outrageous libel policy of England is guilty until proven innocent.
You can read our statement of liability. It is a fascinating read, and we saw no harm in making this public for those interested. It may lessen the frustration of other authors who are researching similar issues.
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Well, it was Zachary's first day of school today. I believe that he really enjoyed it despite his exhaustion when he arrived home. He is going to Cornatzer Elementary School, and will return on Thursday as those in kindergarten are being given a staggered entry. Basically, not all of the kids go to school at the same time in the beginning, but the kids in the same class join up on Thursday. I may post a picture from his first day later.
All the schools in North Carolina started again today, which means that I will soon be speaking to the guidance councilor at Davie High School and trying to arrange the abuse group. If I get chance, I will call the school tomorrow. I shall let you know how that goes. Both me and Thomas have been doing a lot of research into alternative medicine, and many of the articles that we think people need to read are on the forum. Please read the articles, sign up, and post your comments or questions. Also included are articles about toxins inside foods, and in products, which could be harmful to both you and your children.
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This is only going to be a short entry because I am exhausted, but I'll leave a posting to let you know what is going on. We all went swimming today for several hours, in over 100 degree heat. It was great, and the pool felt refreshing compared to the summer sun. For the British readers, the swimming pool was not indoors, I know that in the UK they have to be heated during the summer. Thankfully, none of that is an issue here.
I put lotion on all over, or so I thought; but I forgot about my back and neck. I am paying for that now, as my back is incredibly sore and burnt. I imagine that I will be in pain for around a week now. I knew before I went in the sun that I burn easily and tried to protect my skin, but I already regret missing a big spot. The back of my neck hurts anytime my shirt rubs against it, and I feel as if my skin is being torn whenever I move my neck.
Nevertheless, I really had a great time; we all did. Arriving at around one, we left at four in the afternoon, and then got pizza hut upon our return. We were all hungry and weren't thinking about healthy food. I'll post again tomorrow, as I have lots of things to talk about, but right now I am off to bed.
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Unfortunately, I got very little accomplished this weekend. I will get back to work now, since the week has begun again. So much needs to be done. I still have touch-up work to do on Chapter 5 ("R"), and when I was looking through the notes, I found extra details which must be included in Chapter 3 ("Bad Cop - Worse Cop"). I have lots to do at the moment, even at the times when I am not working with the book.
I have been researching alternative medicine recently. Some of my research is compiled and placed into the forum in the health section. This process is usually very time consuming because there seems to be cover-ups about cures, while information regarding treating symptoms is in plentiful supply. Most doctors and nurses are likely very honorable people, but their industry is rank with corruption stemming from the highest corridors of power. Treatment is a much more profitable approach to diseases for the establishment than curing them; especially when curing them is relatively easy using natural substances. This is the case for the overwhelming majority of health conditions.
Take the case of Chinese red rice: which is as effective as pharmaceutical cholesterol medications, and of course, safer and cheaper. It can be found cheaply in concentrated capsule form in health food stores. Red rice is unlike the toxic synthesized medications produced by the establishment, and treatment with red rice furthermore stimulates the production of the beneficial HDL cholesterol to repair the previous damage done by lifestyle and pharmaceutical medications. It is never mentioned because no corporation could ever hope to obtain a patent monopoly on red rice to extract a premium price. The establishment's cholesterol treatment approach is one of suppressing the chemical poisons ("bad cholesterol") which are being consumed in the diet with even more chemical warfare. It is every bit as wise as treating cancer with a cancer causing agent such as radiation. Can you smell the money? The rice companies and retailers are forbidden by the FDA in the U.S. from even mentioning the benefits of red rice, because this would be making "medical claims". Read about the
FDA censoring cherry growers, because cherries have been found to be more effective than prescription COX-2 arthritis medications. So, the FDA is not really there to protect you. Its real job is to protect the pharmaceutical industry. Only corporations which have paid their dues to the FDA are allowed to make medical claims in the U.S.
In order to help a friend, I had to study ferrets on several sites of veterinary medicine. Veterinary researchers are not pressured to suppress the true causes of diseases, or cures, so veterinary medicine is sometimes much more helpful than the establishment's data when trying to do useful research. When I need to understand the root cause of a condition, I sometimes also reference TCM (Traditional Chinese Medicine).
My most recent research is around the connections between diabetes and cancer, which is sometimes admitted by the establishment, before the topic is nervously changed. I believe that in many cases the cancer treatments with pharmaceuticals lead to diabetes. Although, I believe that there is also a connection to the same dysfunction in cases of true spontaneous diabetes, but I do not wish to say more until I have researched further.
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Last night I spoke to Richard's brother, Jason, to find that he is doing well. Although, he is still recovering from the news of what happened to Richard, and from his own memories of their times together in childhood. It was a really nice conversation, and it has been a long time since I have talked to him. Jason will be in the book, since Richard dragged him into our relationship during break-ups as the person he could trust to gather information about how distraught I was. I am thankful that Jason does not hold a grudge against me for what happened to Richard, as I expected he might have. Instead, I found that Jason knew about the dark side of Richard's personality, and was simply hoping that such a relationship as ours was not in progress.
I have worked on the book all day today and I am about to finish Chapter 5 titled "R". I have been thinking a lot about the future possibilities of the book, and it has been a long time since I have done that. Reflecting helped, because I have been so fixated on completing the book that I ironically forgot the things which motivated me originally. I know how many people this book will help, and I am really excited about it.
I want to get a lot more done before school starts, and I set up the group at Davie High School. I am afraid that a lot of my time may be consumed with that, and I intend to get the book finished by October.
I am also expecting to receive a call soon from Davie Domestic Violence, as they said they will call as they will soon need help at the office. That will give me a little break from the book, but it will not distract me too much. I spoke to Kim, who works there, and she told me that she would most probably be doing the school presentations which me and Kacy did last year. She invited me to join her.
There are lots of things getting started soon, so I need to work feverishly on the book over the next few weeks and see where I can get with it. Thomas is currently working on the less pleasant business aspects such as tweaking the official proposal document. A proposal document is the foundation for any mass published work. It is basically a lengthy sales pitch (ie. 50 pages) with excerpts from the book, which is used to entice contract offers from literary agents and publishers. That is going well.
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I have studied abuse, and I know of abuse most personally. When I lived in England a year ago, I was being stalked by an American Internet predator named Richard K. Huneycutt Jr., who lived only twenty miles from where I now live. It is fortunate that this piece of human garbage is now dead, because only death would stop him. I know how bad some of these people can be. Richard impersonated relatives to have my school and my doctors mistreat me. My abuser also broke into my computer to better control, monitor, and "discipline" me. Then he impersonated me using my own Internet accounts to toy with my friends, before actively working to destroy my reputations with them and various online groups. When he did eventually identify himself to my friends, it was only to goad them into exposing themselves nude before their cameras to him. He was age 34, and their ages ranged from 13 to 16. He denied it time and time again when later making amends with me, and piling on the "hey baby girl". I wanted to believe him so much that I was just his special "baby girl", and that he needed to keep check on me because he was so in-love with me. He managed to throughly manipulate me into defending him. My computer was seized, but I jumped through hoops to get the police to leave us alone. By the end, he had me cutting myself on camera for his viewing entertainment, and spanking myself for my "disobedience" (having an opinion). He contended that my bleeding was necessary, since according to him, the Bible demands that sin requires "blood sacrifice". He had become God in his own mind. It was amazing the relentless levels of psychological and electronic warfare he was able to reach. One of my phones rang every few minutes with him leaving threats, and we could not possibly block any of his calls because he was using an IP based calling system to bypass the normal telephone networks. It was all day and all night, every day for months. The telecommunications companies providing service in American and Briton were unable to do anything about it or even track which calls were his. Thomas still lives with the guilt of having taught Richard too much about computer security. Eventually, Thomas participated in some electronic warfare of his own to cause Richard some major problems, and stop the onslaught of harassment, but I cannot cite the details for obvious legal reasons. I can say that I was quite impressed. Nevertheless, my relationship (if you can call it that) with Richard continued for years, with the police doing nothing. Richard eventually beat me down to the point of being suicidal, but at this stage he could no longer control me. By this time, I had made sure that the situation was known about in the highest levels of both governments. My own father was working to discredit me with law-enforcement as "crazy", because he feared that someday I would testify against his own misdeeds. Sometimes I heard him listening outside my door as Richard and I talked. Fortunately, the police did not need to act, because Richard died unexpectedly.
I was looking through the local news today when I read that a local man had been charged with an Internet sex crime. He had apparently attempted to expose himself to a fifteen-year-old girl. By the time that I had completed reading the article, I realized that the officers had likely broken more laws than the accused 'villain'. Real abuse is a lot more than just sexually-orientated conversations over the internet.
The Martin County Sheriff's Department in Florida had set up an internet profile on 'MySpace' in order to catch internet predators. Their profile displayed a 15 year old girl who wanted to talk, but it was the police who were waiting for somebody to talk with them. Eventually, a 21 year old local man took the bait. After he began an internet relationship with the girl, they contacted the Davie County Sheriff's Department to obtain a warrant which would allow them to seize his computer equipment, search his home, and arrest him. The man, Sean Farrell, was placed in Davie Detention Center with a $52,500 bond. He is being held there until he can be extradited to Florida.
I know first-hand that there are evil monsters who do not deserve mercy. I have met a few of them. From the little information that I have, it does not look like Sean is one of these monsters. His only crime seems to be exposing himself online to a minor, and he is only 21 years old himself. How many fifteen-year-old Internet using girls are there who do not already know what a naked guy looks like? If the girl were real and 12-years-old, then we might have a real reason to call this guy a pedophile. We could have even gotten him the spiritual and psychological help he needed before he gave into the temptation to do something terrible. However, none of this applies to Sean. As it stands, this story was featured in the local newspaper destroying his reputation forever; before he is convicted of anything. What happens if the jury finds him innocent? Will the paper print a retraction along the lines of: "Oppps... our bad... Sorry to have destroyed your life"? Of course, they will never do it, and it is even possible they would lose no sleep over it. His life is destroyed at age 21, and for what? Because he flashed a girl? Are we expected to believe this would traumatize a girl for life?
I do not pretend to be an expert in American law, but Thomas has studied criminal law, and he told me some interesting facts concerning this case. In the U.S., the document known as The Bill of Rights is considered something almost Holy. It is at the core of the country's constitution.
In the Bill of Rights, Ammendment VIII is as follows:
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This was ignored when the $52,500 bond was put in place for Sean. It is quite obvious that this amount was intended to stop him from having an opportunity to be released. This guy did show someone his naughty parts after all, and can you think of any greater danger to the community? The only way this 21-year-old could have paid for this would have been by selling his house. One judge in this country actually told me that this is sometimes their motive in intentionally setting excessive bail.
Next, I want you to consider that he was baited up by the Sheriff's department, then he is being held, with little chance of release, before he is moved to another state for the "crime" that he committed here. Bear this in mind as you read what follows.
Amendment VI includes the following:
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One deputy told the local newspaper that Sean is being treated differently because they used a "fugitive warrant" to arrest him. This is so not right morally, legally, ethically, or any other way. I can only wonder at what excuses they have for claiming his Internet usage somehow qualified him as a fugitive. What state are we in when the people entrusted to enforce the law willfully ignore it?
In other words, the law enforcement agencies involved had better have really good lawyers. Otherwise, they will get eaten alive on this one. If they are somehow successful in their case against him, then Sean will go to prison for a long time, as if he had seriously hurt someone. When he gets out, the world will be a different place. Young people who are put in prison (often wrongfully) like this later feel more comfortable in prison than out in the real world. They then commit crimes in order to return to their 'home' in prison.
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I had an enjoyable day today. I worked on the book for most of the day, but we all decided to go out in the late afternoon. We decided to go to Rich Park with Zach, because he had been asking us to go all morning. I am glad we went. Watching cartoons all the time is not healthy for him, and it got us all out of the house.
While we were at the park, Zach played with another child who was a year or two older than him, and a few inches taller. Watching them play made us realize how a chemical-free diet had helped him. Zachary was much stronger, faster, and better all around. In every way, he was physically better off. It is extraordinary that people simply do not realize that the foods they feed their children will affect them forever. It is also important to note how the foods parents eat (regardless of whether it is fed to the child) will also affect their son or daughter.
I am not referring to some kind of 'passive chemical eating'. I am referring to the cancer, or the heart disease, or the Alzheimer's disease, or the strokes that the parent will almost certainly get while the child grows up. These all affect children, especially if they must watch a parent get buried, or if they are compelled to care for a parent who can no longer remember their children's names. This is really something to consider for those parents who feed their children a natural diet, but do not look after themselves.
We left the park after a couple of hours, and decided to go and play a game of billiards in downtown Mocksville. It was Thomas and Zach verses Me and Andrea. We had a good time, and the final score was 1-1.
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I was thinking about the Blue Jay earlier. I miss him since we let him go, although I know that I did the right thing. He still flies around in the area, but is not tame anymore. He allows us to get a lot closer to him than any other bird; but he certainly wont let me get close enough to pick him up. I see him flying around though, and I'm sure that he steals any sunflower seeds that I put out in the yard, along with the rest of the birds.
Me and the blue jay used to be really close, back when I was feeding it cat food mixed with water, and he started chirping ever hour (they have a very fast metabolism). It was really sweet really, with it's mouth wide open, trying to tell me that he wanted food. I didn't enjoy it when I had to let him go, but birds like that belong in the wild where they can be free. Really, I am glad that he is free so that he can be happy and live a full life, but there is a part of me who wishes that I kept him as a pet.
If you weren't a reader during the time that I found the Blue Jay and took it in then you can read about how we first found him here.
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I do not know what has happened to the Google search engine recently, but its results have been terrible. Google is currently the most popular Internet search engine in the United States according to statistics based on search hours. These statistics do not reflect the problems that they seem to be having. Google has started ranking the results with greater regard to domain names rather than content. The only possible purpose of this is to give higher results to corporations who own the official domain names. I have to wonder if this gross stupidity is the result of hiring former Microsoft employees. Although it is worth mentioning that Microsoft's own MSN search engine is currently far superior to Google's. For a while, the Google engine was easily the best, and it was created by the best and brightest. The company is into too many other projects now, and has obviously lost sight of its priorities. I think they made a choice between continuing to do one thing really well, and doing many things mediocre.
In contrast, Yahoo still bases its searches upon the content of a website. Yahoo has results which are much easier to read, as the results are not all automatically generated by software. Google uses automatic web-crawlers to find their websites and to judge the popularity and frequency of content. Yahoo! provides the sites that it lists with a human reviewed title and description, generally without the use of such crawlers. At the present time, Yahoo has superior listings over Google. Over the past few years, Google has been my primary source of information gathering, but this will have to change.
While researching alternative medicine utilizing lists of symptoms, I struggled with Google for almost 3 days, using different search terms; and reading through different pages. I began to progressively understand the cause of the symptoms. I felt that I had exhausted Google, and tried Yahoo! as my alternative. My first search provided me with the information I needed to accurately define the problem, along with the treatment options available in conventional medicine. Before long, I understood what needed to be changed in the individuals' body, and how this could be obtained using natural alternative medical substitutes to chemical bombardment. The research was made much easier with Yahoo!
Do you Yahoo?
Microsoft's Engine: http://search.msn.com/
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Well, the summer break is over for all the kids from Mocksville, and for that matter, most of the U.S.. Apart from the extra school traffic, I am actually quite glad that the schools are back in, especially our high school.
I mentioned a few months ago the prospect of me leading an abuse counseling group at Davie High School for victims. I hope to return there and speak with one of the school's guidance counselors when things begin getting settled again, in a couple of weeks. I have already spoken with her once, but I need to resubmit the proposal, lest I risk delays due to the multitude of distracting student issues. I will also need need her assistance with things such as setting the schedule, and relegating a place where I can conduct the group, etc. She was really encouraging when I last spoke to her, and I have no doubt that she will be whenever I speak to her again in a few weeks.
I have mixed feelings about how to eliminate the initial resistance of students about discussing difficult issues, as I remember the way in which I was first directed toward receiving abuse counseling, around two years ago.
I do not remember who I first inquired with, but I remember going through the NSPCC (National Society for the Prevention of Cruelty to Children) and victim support units, as well as speaking to my counselor from Eckington Engineering College, in England. The counselor at my school was Sue Towers, and we got on great. She became like a friend, despite her age which would have made her more like a teacher than a peer. Yet, I felt safe being open with her. She often came to collect me from lessons each week, so that I could talk to her, and vent myself. She did everything she could to help me, and I will always appreciate her kind efforts. I had expected one-on-one counseling, with complete privacy. I was offered group counseling at several opportunities, but it just was not the same. I had to be able to connect with someone before I could tell what was basically my life story. I could not bring myself to trust a whole group, especially when that group was my student peers of the same age. I am really glad that I found Sue in the end.
These experiences help me to relate to the group which is planned. I do not want anyone to feel as I did. I want to be able to offer one-on-one counseling if a person needs it. I know that some people will certainly need it, even though most young people prefer to speak in a group. They feel protected in group settings. Although, I do not wish to be helpful to only 'most' young people who need it. I hope that I will be able to establish something which enables me to also help the minority of students who prefer to speak about their experiences without the group in-tow. This minority will be the most wounded ones -- the ones who need me the most. I shall discuss this with the guidance counselor whenever I go to coordinate the group meetings with her.
The idea of an abuse support group at Davie High School first came to me when I visited the school, speaking about my abuse with Kacy Corriher from DDVS (Davie Domestic Violence Services). The teacher of the class is Amelia Little and she is lovely Christian woman. She teaches about domestic violence and celibacy, and I find her to be really friendly and helpful. After I performed a couple of speeches in her classes, we began to speak for longer periods, and more frequently. I brought up the idea of this group with her. She responded by taking me to see one of the guidance counselors, since they would be able to tell me if the group would be feasible, and if we already had enough people to merit an official group. I was told that there was more than enough for a group, and new kids were reporting abusive behavior to the school all the time. I quickly realized that the time was right. Obviously, there was already a need for a group of this stature, and I am really glad that I can help using my experiences, and the knowledge that I have gained doing research.
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